How to Deal with an Alcoholic Who Won't Stop Drinking
76How to Deal with an Alcoholic Who Won't Stop Drinking
How to Deal with an Alcoholic Who Won't Stop Drinking
"How to deal with an alcoholic safely?" is something people often ask themselves and others around them. Living with an alcoholic is extremely stressful and trying on everybody's patience. This is hard on everybody, including the alcoholic. Everybody reacts different to alcohol weather its good or bad reaction, not one person acts the same. Because of that, there is no right answer to the question of dealing with him or her. Keep in mind, the main thing is to show great support and love, but be stern when you need to be. The hardest thing to remember is to not make excuses for their behavior.
I remember before I got clean and sober an quit drinking that I would be having my coffee the next morning after a night of hard drinking my wife would ask me if I remember what I did last night. I would immediately feel the fear of doing something terribly embarrassing and it felt like I was about to be sick. Anyway she would proceed to tell me what ever it was that I happened to have done.So that is one way how to deal with an alcoholic.
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Helping an alcoholic may require drug an alcohol counseling
The reason I mentioned this is if you really want to know how to help an alcoholic then do not hold anything they may have done back. Tell them it will make them thing about there behavior. I am not saying that this will be enough to make them stop drinking but if they get enough information of how their drinking affects you and others it defiantly can not hurt. So do not enable them by keeping things to yourself this is no way to help them and it actually may cause more harm than good.
What many people aren't aware of is that alcoholism is a sickness, a disease and because of that, the ill person will need help getting better for a very long time. Also realize that an alcoholic can't just stop drinking like you can with a bad habit.
Do not be inpatient because there could possibly be months of regular meetings with a certified "drug and alcohol counselor" now keep in mind here that this will come with gradual steps of overcoming the problems. It might be hard but remember its not true if the drinker tries telling you that you’re the reason they drink. Unless you force them to take an alcoholic drink and make them drink it, it is their entire fault. At this point it may not be a bad idea to mention that they need some alcoholism treatment.
How to help an alcoholic stop drinking
Dealing with an alcoholic
When dealing with a person with this disease, sometimes it's best to get away from a bad situation for a little bit by going for a walk or going to the store for a little while. If you don't walk away to cool down, things will just get worse. This also gives the alcoholic time to relax and think about everything.
The most important thing when dealing with an alcoholic is that if the drinker isn't ready to get help, it will just be harder on everybody. You should never give up on that person and always show you care. By taking small steps to help the person, they slowly will want to help themselves and will get help.
Good luck
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Hi thanks for your comment sorry it took me so long to get back to you and I wish there was a way to be notified when someone leaves a comment. I am glad that you have decided to do what is best for you. I had 3 uncles that were all alcoholics so I know exactly what you mean when you say you lived with two of them. That's enough to drive anyone right up the wall.
You are exactly right when you said they they have to want to quit drinking. The old saying that you can lead a horse to water but you can not make him drink is a very good example of an alcoholic.
Good luck to you and God bless
sueb 17 months ago
I've spent 40 years growing up around alcoholics. My older brother's been one for 40 years and I've had two alcoholic husbands, first of 17 yrs, the 2nd of 18 yrs... and I can tell you it doesn't matter what you do, unless they want to get help and quit drinking, you might as well render yourself helpless. I've tried every tacktic under the sun, the loving and supportive thing, the ignoring thing, the screaming and yelling thing, the children thing, and nothing has even come close to seeing them want to get help to quit. As a matter of fact, I've been on both sides of the fence, I was an alcoholic for about 20 yrs until I woke up one day and knew I didn't want to live that way anymore... nothing but trouble. Nevertheless, it took me years to change my ways, after I was done drinking, I had to work on my attitude and now in the end, I've left my 2nd husband, been gone 8 months, even grandmal siezures from a head injury a long time ago wasn't enough to get him to quit. He's been in rehab twice and attempted several times to get help and quit, but he's always gone back to the drinking and the old way of life, old friends. He can't seem to get away from it or doesn't want to. I have struggled with this man's drinking for 18 years and I'm done. I'm concentrating on my own life now and what is best for me. Just thought to share this with you. I've learned in rehab that it's entirely up to you, no one can help you unless you want to help yourself... and yes it is true to stop enabling them. My mother has disowned my brother now because of all the trouble he's caused with his drinking and I'm done living in that world. Too much hell and grief. The family is sticking together now, if only we had done this sooner, it might have at least given my brother something to think about.